Women are continuing to make strides in the professional world and now outnumber men in many graduate programs.
But all those career achievements don’t always lead to relationship success. I coach many professional women to get out of their own way in the dating world.
For DatingAdvice.com, I shared the top phrases to lose if you want a promotion in your love life.
1. “Men are intimidated by my career.”
This by far is one of the biggest myths about today’s men.
After interviewing hundreds of men, I’ve been pleasantly surprised to discover most want a partner in life, not a passenger. They want to root on a woman pursuing her goals and also feel supported.
What they don’t want is a woman who throws her success in their face or makes a man feel like she doesn’t need him in her life.
So along with sharing your professional passions on a date, be sure to share your personal hobbies and the things you enjoy about his company.
2. “This is a position I need to fill.”
Finding a compatible partner is not a to-do item that will be checked off.
Being in a relationship will require your attention and commitment.
So while some qualities from the working world can be beneficial when dating, other characteristics need to be left at your desk.
Don’t treat your date like an interview where you are pumping him for information, but see it as a chance for your date to get an inner view of who you are as a person while you are doing the same.
3. “I want love to happen organically.”
Dating is not the romantic comedy we grew up watching. Your dream guy is probably not going to spot you across the street, stop traffic and ask you out.
Knowing that doesn’t stop many women from still holding out on their fairy tale to begin and missing out on a real-life romance.
One thing I do with my coaching clients is ask them about a career highlight. Their eyes light up as they tell me about something incredible they pulled off and we write it all down.
With that burst of energy, I let them know discovering lasting love will require some of that same faith, muscle and commitment.
Just because you meet the love of your life by asking your friends to set you up or strategically going to conferences full of the types of guys you want to date, that doesn’t make the connection any less magical or your bond any less fulfilling.
Getting the love you want requires casting your net as wide as possible to meet your match.
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